June 2, 2009 Kendall's first real talk about Adoption

Kendall has made some comments and asked some questions before, but never really listened when I tried to explain or answer her questions. Today, Kendall asked her first questions about where she came from and listened and asked more questions when I answered her. She told me babies grow in Mommies bellies and asked if she grew in my belly. After having 4 1/5 - 5 yrs to think about how to answer this question, my mind went blank on how to tell her, how to explain it so she could understand, and where to begin. I told her that she didn't grow in my belly, she was extra special. I explained how she knows Mommy's belly is sick all of the time and how that wasn't a good place for her to grow so she had to grow in someone else's belly, then the lady gave her to Mommy b/c she knew Kendall was Mommy's baby girl and belonged to Mommy & Daddy. She asked what the lady's name was and where she lived while she was growing in her belly, did she live with us? I explained that she was a very nice lady named Melissa and she lived in her own house. And that Mommy and Daddy had our house and got all of Kendall's things ready for her, painted her room pretty, got her bed and clothes ready, all her stuffed animals. She wanted to know where her stuffed animals were, to which I pointed around the room and replied EVERYWHERE! ....and she laughed. I told her we were there waiting when she came out of the lady's belly and the lady gave her to us right away b/c she knew Kendall was our baby girl and belonged with us. She seemed satisfied with that for now and was ready to go back to watching her movie/getting ready for school.